I write these “get over the past” articles for 4 reasons:

Hi.
I want to have some tips, how to get over problem like this.
I have girlfriend. We are around 5 months together. In start i knew that she is not a virgin, but i was ok with that, but now i think more and more of that and it hurts like hell. Before that i had been with different girls, but in hart, i believe that i gave my virginity to her, and now i feel bad. I gave her something very important and didn’t get the same in return. She have had 2 other partners before, and she didn’t had feelings for them. She says im the best and she wants to be with me, but im feeling realy bad, how to get over this, because i love this girl so much and i want to be with her, but i feel different right now…

Hang in there. This is no fun. But it gets better.

I feel for you, man. I’ve been there. I couldn’t have written this article if I hadn’t.

It’s not ridiculous at all. , so there’s some precedent for you.

My boyfriend really struggles with all of these and he has no clue how to fix it. He was born and raised a Christian and when we first started talking he told me he was not waiting till marriage, but then after he lost his virginity to me he decided to tell me he was in fact waiting, but felt uncomfortable telling me, he thought it would be a deal breaker. I feel terrible for my past and I am actually trying very hard to become a good Christian. I was born a Catholic and now that I have been reading the Bible more and more I have decided that I want to convert to Christianity. I thank him every day for helping me see the light but he still shames me for my past. At times he gets to the point that he wants to go out and have sex with as many people I was with to be even and in his head it will make him feel better and to him it is the only solution. Does anyone have advice?

So I guess to answer Christawna’s questions…

I need help. Just few days ago, I went into my pregnant girlfriend’s diary and I found out how she asked a guy out and they both had sex same day. How she invite guys to her house for sex. I love her so much but the though of her past is driving me crazy. Remember she is presently caring my baby. What can I do cos am about to quit the relationship.

3. Is that lame virginity loss moment the extent of it? Is that the worse she’s got?

Anyway I know Im a huge hypocrite but I just felt like sharing.

We have now been married for over 3 years and have 1 toddler and twins of 10 months. We do have a good relationship. My wife laughs, enjoys life and yet she doesn’t realize how much pain and hurt I still carry inside of me…and I don’t want to talk to her about it anymore, as it just hurts her and I don’t want to do that again.

Thanks.Its so stupid and illogical. She didnt even know me back then.

Over the last 5 years, I have read about 100 articles on this subject, I went for counselling and deliverance at my church and I have also talked to other people about this, but it feels fine for a week or so and then reality kicks in again…

i am virgin and waiting for my other half……..:)

I wanted to write to you. Please feel free to read my issue above…I think I’m an earlier version of you…but I haven’t married her yet or had kids.

Please help me make sense of it! 🙁

I am so desperate to change my thoughts and to let go of this “obession” that my wife wasn’t a virgin and I REALLY want to stop picturing her with other guys and all they things they did out of my head. It consumes me 24/7 – I can never enjoy anything with her (sexual or non-sexual) as I keep wondering whether or not she has done this with anyone else before…Maybe it is OCD??? I don’t know…but I want these thoughs gone! And because it’s an issue of the mind, I keep saying that I will not think about these things anymore, but as soon as I do, I think about it!

Don’t know if any of that helped. But good luck!

Difference between my woman and yours is…only 1 guy had her before me. It’s funny isn’t it? How love goes from not caring to disgustingly consuming? But it makes sense,,,you want to know if the person you love really thinks you’re special…but how can you be given the fact that you didn’t physically do anything they did to them exclusively while they had you in EVERY way…right? You can never forget it….but going for hypnosis isn’t the answer…dealing with it is.